Even in today’s progressive social climate, divorce is often thought of in far more negative terms than is necessary. Often, those who are facing a divorce are tempted to project unfairly negative things onto themselves and others because of social stigmas that surround divorce. For anyone who is entering into the process, reminding yourself of some fundamental truths can help soften the blow and give you the strength to bear this difficult process with dignity.
Many soon-to-be divorcees are overcome by the feeling that they are on the verge of losing their community or the respect of their loved ones. It is true that you cannot govern how anyone else will choose to react, but it is not fair to any person to assume that he or she will respond with disdain. On the other hand, leaving a marriage may give you the freedom that you need to try new things and form new relationships, if the ones you have are so fragile that they can be dismantled by something as commonplace as a divorce.
It is also tempting to believe that divorce is the worst-case-scenario for children. It is true that divorce is not an easy thing for kids to endure, but it is not an emotional death sentence for them either. Especially in the case of an abusive or emotionally unhealthy marriage, being willing to shoulder the responsibility for your children and removing them from a toxic environment is one of the most loving things you can do as a parent. You will have to be intentional about communicating the truth of the situation to them, but with love and support, children can respond to divorce well.
Divorce is never easy, but it does not have to be a bad thing. An experienced, caring divorce attorney can help keep the tone of the process civil and ensure that all parties have their rights respected while fair outcomes are negotiated.