Children are often a concern when you go through a divorce for a number of reasons. A child may not understand the full implications of a divorce, and you want to make sure your little one is happy and comfortable. Some people decide to stay in an unhappy marriage for the benefit of their children, but the truth is that you can raise a child even if you do go through a divorce.
Divorce itself has no lasting negative effects on a child’s social skills or grades, self-esteem or life satisfaction, according to research. Despite that, people still claim that it’s better to stay in a marriage that isn’t working than to put a child through divorce. Is that really the best option?
It may be for some people, but for the majority, it’s not a good idea to stay in a situation you’re not happy with. Happy adults raise happy children, and cynical, depressed or negative parents are going to have that same influence on their children.
Yes, it’s better to raise children with the participation of both parents, but even if that’s not possible, your child can grow up happy and healthy. Having both parents raise a child is a good idea, but living in the same household doesn’t actually matter as much as just having both parents participating in the child’s life.
Your child can get through a divorce with your and your spouse’s support. In the meantime, you should focus on resolving your divorce issues, so they influence your home and your child’s life for as little time as possible.
Source: Psychology Today, “Yes, You Can Raise Happy Children After Divorce,” Wendy Paris, accessed Sep. 15, 2017