Divorce is hard on everyone, whether you’re the person who decided to seek one or the person who found out one was being sought against you. You have children, and you know that the way you react does influence them as well.
There are some things that you should know about divorcing with children before you go through this challenge. With the right knowledge and preparation, you can better help your children through a difficult time in their lives.
First, remember that it’s okay to feel. Your children look to you to understand how to react to a situation. If you approach it with positivity, they’re more likely to take the divorce as it comes. If you worry or voice your concerns, it may make your children more agitated or nervous, comparatively.
Another thing to remember is that you won’t ever be without your ex, so you need to handle this divorce with grace. Except for in some extreme circumstances, there’s a high likelihood that you and your children’s other parent will have to continue working together for their benefit. You need to do your best to eliminate small arguments to better help your children adjust. If you and your ex-spouse constantly fight, you’ll only hurt your relationship with your children in the long term.
Finally, admit that sometimes, things don’t work out. Your kids learn from what they see, and if they see you admit mistakes and show that you’re resilient, that’s a great lesson to learn.
In the meantime, remember that you can work with others to help you get through this time. Divorces are hard, but you don’t have to go through yours alone.
Source: Huffington Post, “5 Inconvenient Truths About Divorcing With Children,” Rebecca Bitton, accessed Dec. 06, 2017